I follow some mommy blogs on Pinterest and Facebook, but whenever I look at the bio of the person writing it, they are stay at home mothers that post about saving money and making things. I set out on a search to find some blogs authored by mothers that work outside of the home. The ones that I found are simply freelancers or consultants…no one that works a 9-5 job and then comes home to cook dinner, exercise, pay bills, do laundry, and somewhere in between all of the stuff a single mother has to do FIND A LIFE OF MEANING. I am not saying that if your life has no meaning if you work and then take care of your kids, but one must get out and do things that they enjoy.
I will be totally transparent with all of you right now. Last night I had a little mini breakdown. Friday night, my daughter is staying with my son (age 21) for the weekend and I have nothing to do other than look at a messy house. I purchased a sewing machine that came the other day, I got it out and looked at it, but I didn’t have any thread to do anything with it (I will get some today), I did a couple loads of laundry and cleaned a bookcase that sits at the head of my bed. I was crying most of the time I was doing so. I should have went a worked out since that would have helped me feel better, but I decided just to stay home. Don’t get me wrong, I have hobbies, and I have friends, but for some reason I have the wrong kind of friends. You know, the kind that only call when they need something or when they are going through a rough time.
Background info: My husband and I have been separated since early this year, however his stuff is still here junking up the place. This is one of my problems. I can’t get my stuff organized and have a place for it while his stuff is still here. He pretty much will not leave me alone, I don’t know why when I tell him that I no longer want to be with him, he comes over while I am at work and makes me a coat rack. Yes, you heard me, he made me a coat rack. I won’t lie, it is probably the nicest thing he has done for me because I have always wanted one, but with his crap in here, I have no where to put it. He does not like my house, my daughter does not like my house, but I love my house. I bought my house 14 years ago while i was making $8/hr plus working a second job. I don’t care that it is just over 1000 sq ft and that every room needs painted and I need a new kitchen floor. This is my house and if I hear one more complaint about not having enough room I might just take my daughter down to the homeless shelter and let her stay there for a night. See how other people live. My house is not junky, in fact I have done numerous things such as new windows, new roof, new carpet, new back patio and most recently a new furnace I have to pay off within one year. I even put new flooring down in my own bedroom. I did the entire thing by myself including leveling the floor. I have a savings account going right now for ceiling fans for all of the rooms. i need to find an electrician to install them once i have all of the money which should be in May. Bottom line is this: I am upset because until someone has their own home, they should not be so picky. My other bottom line is: How do other single moms do it? I got my Masters degree in December, so the four years prior to that I was doing homework just about the entire time. Now it seems like there is no time to do anything!
Does anyone know of other single mothers that blog about either being a single mother or about how they accomplish things? If so, I would love to hear about them! I think I am going to do a one hour challenge since it is Saturday 🙂